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The most important thing in a survival situation is your mindset ...


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The most important thing in a survival situation is your mindset ...


Whether it is in the wilderness or in the streets, a correct mindset is important for everyday life - if you want a happy life and be successful anyway.

Most people spend their whole lives scared of leaving their comfort zones. There is no personal development whatsoever. Most people never challenge themselves, never move their boundaries.

One reason for this is that many people -I would say most - have already made up their minds. They are telling themselves, I cannot do this or that. They are in fact telling themselves, that they are losers. That they are no good, and not as good as other people. People de-value themselves by saying so. Unfortunately, lots of people do.

Things will always turn out the way you think they will. That means that if you are telling yourself that you cannot do something, you will be correct. But here is the thing. If you tell yourself that hell yes, I can do this, you will also be correct. Pretty neat, ain’t it?

This means that YOU are in charge. YOU decide how things will turn out.

If you act like a loser you will become one, so act like a winner, like a champion, until you become one.


Unfortunately, most people are surrounded by negative ¤#&¤. These are dream stealers, people who will do their best to suck the energy out of others. They have brains the size of green peas, but very big mouths. Mouths bigger than a Nile crocodile. However, dream stealers are not as intelligent as the crocodiles.

A dream stealer is a coward, someone who does not have the balls to leave his/her own comfort zone, someone who has himself/herself never been successful at anything. The dream stealer is negative and will always try to bring others down into the sewer where he/she him/herself is floating around.

These kinds of people never speak out of experience. They know nothing, but yet they run their mouths. And often, these kinds of people are jealous. They just hate the fact that you have the balls to go out there and do something with your life. That you have the balls to leave your comfort zone and move your boundaries and try something new.

Do not let small minds convince you, that your dreams are too big.


Remember, you can never fail as long as you never give up. People fail because they choose to give up, throw in the towel. All failures are self-selected. They are the kind of people who will ALWAYS find an excuse to give up …

Question: who is the person who talks to you - the most - every day? Is it your mother? Your wife/husband? Who? Well, actually, it is you. So it is VERY important what you say - to yourself.

And do you want to see who is stopping you, from reaching your goals? OK, find a mirror and stand in front of it.

Get it?


It is you who sets the limits within your own mind.


Also remember: It is you - yourself - who decides what to focus on. Let us say you are deep into the wilderness. Shall you focus on let us say the rain? Or, the beautiful mountain and the wonderful view? It is your choice.

You are responsible for your life, but even more important, you are responsible for the thoughts that create your life.

Understand?

Many times over the years, people have told me that they cannot do this, or that. I often then ask: what if I had 10, 000, 000 dollars, right here in a bag, that you could see? And, that if you did this thing, I would give you all this money, tax-free. Would you then be able to do it?

Your answer, most likely would be: Hell yes! THEN I would be able to do it, and complete it!

Interesting ain’t it ..? What is interesting, is that a big, magic, payout incentive, is not reality. So again, it is up to you. You are the architect of your life, nobody else.

So what is the mindset that you need to succeed - to be a survivor ?


Most people say they are going to try. TRY? Firstly, I would get rid of the word: try. The word - try - is already giving up. It´s about not investing your whole being. It comes with the expectation of failure. In my book, either you do it and do it 100 % or just do not bother. To say you are going to try is a loser mentality.

Consider, for example, how many people approach dieting or losing weight. Especially in the spring, when people want to look good on the beach. How many are successful? How many reach their goals? I say: very few. Why? Well, one reason is that they have the wrong mental attitude from the get go. They
try a little bit with a negative attitude on Monday. Tuesday they will find a stupid excuse to cheat a little. Wednesday, they are back to normal.

Remove the word try from your vocabulary.

If you want things to change, you have to change.


If you want things to change,
you have to get off your butt and make sure that the change happens.

As long as you continue to do what you have always done,
you will get what you have always been getting.

If you want something you have never had,
you have to do something you have never done.

If you do not change the way you are,
you will always have what you are having now.

You can have more than you have, because
you can become more than you are.


My experience is that those who need to change the most, are the ones who are the most negative and least motivated.


Every now and then when I talk/teach, one person will turn his/her back, hands in pocket, the negativity radiates, and so on. These people then scratch their heads and cannot understand why their lives are crap, why they cannot hang on to any kind of job, why they have never been successful at anything in their lives, etc., etc ..

I believe we have a problem today - people are very soft, both physically and mentally. Many give up for no reason what so ever. They always find an excuse, like - the backpack is probably chafing a little bit - that´s if they REALLY think about it. Or, if I am teaching survival in the streets, and hand to hand combat - I was probably a little bit too tough on the guy with the cool tattoos - who walks away complaining.


I would ask: is that what he is going to do in a real situation too, when some lowlife wants to take his life?


OK, I could go on and on here, but I think you get the idea.

What I have written above, are just a few examples of what I talk about when I teach. I will tell you the rest at a course.

I am looking forward to seeing you there.


Stefan



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